I want to invite you to reflect upon the feeling that we are
missing out on something.
It may take a some contemplation to capture it, but once we do we will use it as a portal into something helpful.
Can you sense the elevation of anxiety as you gain proximity to this feeling? It's a unique kind of emotional pain or discomfort. Someone else has what you have
always wanted. You feel forgotten. Overlooked.This feeling contains envy. But look closer. Do you recognize the self pity? This is the kind of emotional stress that we all seek to avoid.
This feeling of missing out is engineered into our commercial culture. But that is just the surface level stuff. I'm going deeper than planned obsolescence.
If we stay
focused, this feeling will show us our "WANTER"-that place inside where our true self yearns for completeness.
It takes a bit more maturity to realize that its not the promotion, the material possessions, or the opportunity that complete us. The feeling stems from a sense of losing our very self. This is why it hurts us so much.
Another way to see this is to look at
either:
- Our experience with depresssion ("I have no one to help me"-John 5:7)
- Our flurry of ambitious activity ("Gain the whole world, lose yourself"- Luke 9:25)
Both are by-products of the feeling of missing out. The former has concluded the self is essentially lost, the latter is a pre-emptive strike to avoid the loss we fear.
What if there is another option? What could
possibly prevent such an odd, yet distracting emotional experience? What will prevent us from ever missing out?
Now we are on spiritual turf. Self work is SOUL work.
What will convince us that life has no dead ends? What makes us so confident that we can celebrate the abundance of others without diminishing our own lot in life?
It is the soul that is
complete. It knows that it is completely loved, accepted, and validated ALREADY. "AS-IS". It also knows it is laden with unknowable potential.
We are NOW and NOT YET! We are solid ground yet moving forward.
Each of our lives is uniquely retelling a cosmic story. A story where new life always grows out of suffering or sacrifice. If we grasp this. If we trust
this, then there can be no missing out, because each tiny death germinates a greater life.
There is NOW only the role of completely, faithfully, and joyfully living out our life-all aspects of it.
